Life Transitions Counselling

About

Mon Lucas

Mon Lukas

My name is Mon Lukas and I welcome you to my web page.

It’s a privilege to witness the growth and healing of my clients. This process recognises you are the expert in your life, and everything we do together will be centred on you and your needs. I work actively and collaboratively with you to help you move through life’s transitions. Once the decision is made to come to counselling it can be hard to know what to expect from your therapist. I will honour your personal story, while adding to it from my training and life experience.

I support clients living with anxiety disorders (including hoarding), grief, chronic illness, depression, struggles with body image and sexual identity.

My approach is integrative, transpersonal, and culturally sensitive and draws from a number of therapeutic models based around narrative therapy and includes solution-focused therapy, mindfulness, cognitive-behavioural therapy and motivational interviewing.

I offer inclusive counselling for diverse folk including diverse genders, sexualities and expression. Whether straight, gay, lesbian, gender nonbinary, queer or not, you’ll be equally respected and welcome.

Anxiety
Anxiety is one of the most common mental health conditions, with many symptoms and expressions such as:
  • breath-holding
  • a feeling of panic or racing heart
  • phobias, a short temper
  • “butterflies” in the stomach
  • fidgeting and reaching for comforts like food or smokes
We all experience anxiety at times as a response to life events, but when anxiety becomes a default chronic state of mind, it can appear to take over our life.
Grief

Grief is a reaction to any form of loss: the death of a loved one or a beloved pet, financial loss, unexpected change in life circumstances that result in a change in status, self-image, employment or health. Significant loss can result in a range of feelings including anger, denial, deep sadness, guilt and despair.

In seeing a therapist, we can learn ways to cope with the emotions associated with loss which can include meditation, meditation and relaxation techniques, and practical life skills to equip to us for the new model of our life.

Depression
Depression is a prolonged and persistent negative mood which can interfere with many aspects of life. Some of the signs of depression include:
  • Profound and persistent tiredness
  • Sadness
  • Disappointment
  • Lack of interest or enjoyment
  • Crying spells
  • Reduced appetite, or over-eating
  • Insomnia or fatigue
  • Problems with concentration or poor memory
  • Low or no sexual desire
  • Aches and pains

Everyone experiences feelings of depression at some stage; feeling “sad” is a normal part of the human experience, and this sadness generally passes within a few hours or days. Depression that lasts for extended periods of time and interferes with day to day functioning, or causes us to self-harm, is of a more serious nature.

If you have experienced any of the listed symptoms, then your depression is at a level where you would benefit from seeing a therapist.

Coping Skills

It can be difficult knowing how to cope with unfamiliar situations, or situations that habitually case us stress. We can set ourselves in a loop of “failure” and distress, which makes it even more difficult to manage change, setbacks, or our life more generally.

Together, we can discuss actions that you can take to manage and reduce stress, ways to help you feel more in control of your life.

Self-esteem

Self-esteem, simply put, is our opinion of ourselves. It is the degree to which we feel worthy, valuable, capable, successful and can be expressed on a continuum of from low to high, and can be influenced by external circumstances or relationships, culture or personal history. It can be rock-solid and gain its strength from within us.

Low self-esteem can be treated, and together we can work on adjusting unhelpful patterns or relating to ourselves.

Reiki for stress relief and end-of-life

Reiki is a gentle, hands-on healing technique that utilises universal life-force energy, or Chi. As part of a holistic therapy reiki can help restore wellbeing, relaxation and stress relief, and can be applied to most situations involving grief, bereavement and at the end of life. It is superb at treating anxiety, depression, mental instability, grief, and fear, whatever our circumstances, and works in conjunction with all other therapeutic techniques to promote recovery.

Reiki connects us to generative life force, that unconditional love that people who have had near-death experiences have reported. When you apply Reiki to people who are terminally ill, you are connecting them to this unconditional love and preparing them for their transition, helping them to deal with any unfinished business.

Love that hurts

When we are bruised by someone who we have laid ourselves bare to, the pain runs deep. We feel betrayed, disrespected, without personal worth or power, unlovable.

Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone of all ages, genders, sexualities, cultural backgrounds and economic levels, but it may often be denied or excused, particularly when the abuse is psychological rather than physical. Acknowledging that a relationship is abusive is the first step to ending it, and protecting ourselves.

Sometimes we learn from our experiences. Sometimes we fall into a pattern of attracting or being attracted to partners that are an unhealthy fit for us.

Working together, you and I can examine this pain and these patterns and uncover how we relate to ourselves and others, and how to how to form new relationships that are healthy, satisfying and mutually respectful.

Hoarding

Collecting treasures becomes hoarding when we have trouble letting go of possessions that are no longer wanted or needed, or if your collection takes us so much room that it interferes with movement through the home or with maintaining hygiene. Hoarding can impact negatively on finances and relationships when we shop compulsively. It can be associated with obsessive-compulsive disorder, depression and anxiety.

Recovering from hoarding can be difficult and requires collaboration between client and therapist. I will never force you to unload your “stuff”, but can gently help you to unravel why you hoard, and address the back-story of your collecting addiction.

Chronic Illness

Many of us live with debilitating and perhaps chronic medical conditions for which there may not be a cure, and potentially may never revisit our previously “well’ state of being. The life of someone with a chronic illness is impacted in ways that a healthy person cannot begin to comprehend.

There are often tremendous consequences on the social, recreational and occupational functioning of someone living with illness. We may experience shock, denial and disbelief that something is even wrong, and “crash” when we push ourselves beyond a point that supports our wellbeing. It is estimated that up to one-third of individuals with a serious medical condition experience symptoms of depression.

Chronic condition has the potential to take on a life of its own; we may over-identify with and “become” our illness, and feel a sense of powerlessness over our life. With guidance, we can develop strategies to take charge of aspects of our life that still remain under our conscious control, and regain a sense of personal agency.

Life Coaching

Sometimes, our life needs a little “tweak”: we are unclear about our goals or direction, our lives seem to lack purpose or a sense of “mission”. Generally, we’re doing OK, but we go through our days without passion, and possibly little true commitment to what we’re doing.
Unless we have clarity about what we are working towards and why we are doing it, it can be difficult to achieve our ambitions. Life coaching can help us navigate these waters.
Seeing a life coach who is psychologically trained, such as a counsellor, means that you are having a conversation with someone who has the understanding, training and commitment to help you make positive change.

Spirituality

I personally don’t subscribe to one specific faith, but practice a mixture of of traditions. I have training and practice in Eastern energetic healing, and experience in mainstream Christian traditions as well.

I see spirituality as a deep connection to that part of myself that knowns more about me that than is expressed in my everyday consciousness, and my connection to the earth and to others. It is my connection to my true self, my higher self, that part of me that connects with the generative life force that runs through all our veins.

Psychotherapy comes from the Greek, meaning “healing for the soul”, healing at a deep level, healing the whole person. If we want to make real and lasting changes, I believe it is essential to connect with our true self, who we are at the centre of our being, beyond any troubles we are facing. You do not need to actively practice a religious tradition, or have any interest in spirituality to benefit from an approach to counselling that respectfully and compassionately encompasses the whole person, at a deep level.

LGBTIQ

While lesbian, bi, gay, transgender, queer and non-binary people seek counselling for the same reasons as other members of the community, we also experience specific problems that result from homophobia, discrimination and marginalisation, and the journey of coming to terms with our sexuality.

Living within the queer community, I understand that you are much more than your sexual identity, but that it informs your daily experience and expression.

I am culturally competent and can support you with systems to cope with and challenge the problems you may be facing, with the aim of helping you have a happy life.

I hold a Diploma of Counselling, specific training in Narrative Therapy and am a Usui Reiki Master with over a decade of experience.